By Julia, Mother of a 20 year old senior resident

Below is a copy of the e-mail I sent to the Recovery Ranch intake e-mail address last year in May 2016:  

I am interested in the cost of the program at the Recovery Ranch for my 19 year old son Dillon.  Although we have Tricare reserve select health insurance he has used 28 days of inpatient care in the last year.  I have called numerous facilities in the Midwest and have been told various things.  Most don't accept Tricare although that is irrelevant at this point as he only has 2 days of inpatient eligibility until June 22, 2016.  I have been told since he has access to health insurance he would not be considered for grants.  Self-pay rates range from $21,000 to $50,000 per month.  His father and I do not have that kind of money.  In fact although we work hard and have both been at our current jobs for over 20 years the cost of Drug Rehab makes me feel like we are below poverty level.  My son needs long term help.  28 days in rehab and coming back to the same social environment has been an epic failure throughout the last year.  He needs to be away from Terre Haute, IN drug life and start fresh.  I feel so helpless in my quest to find affordable drug treatment program in California for him.  Please advise what the cost of the program is at the Recovery Ranch and please let me know if there are any grants available for your program.  I cannot make one more hopeful phone call.  I just need numbers.  

Thank You,

Julia Stoelting



May 5, 2017,

As I read that e-mail again this morning I could literally feel the hopelessness that I felt when I originally composed that e-mail wash over me…  I was in the middle of the most important mission of my life; to save the life of my youngest child.  Dillon had reached a point in his addiction that I felt death or jail were imminent.  Every time Dillon left my house I looked at him as though it was probably the last time I would see him alive. I rarely slept as I would close my eyes and pray please God keep my children safe and asked him to especially watch over Dillon as he was on a path of self-destruction.  I realized I was not just waiting but actually anticipating and planning for “the” phone call that was going to tell me that my youngest child was dead.    


Soon after I sent the e-mail to the Recovery Ranch I received a call from the intake manager Jared Erb.  He explained that the Recovery Ranch is not like other sober living programs.  The Recovery Ranch residents are expected to live like Gentlemen.  My experiences with the Men’s sober living programs in Terre Haute, Indiana were that there were often more drugs inside these facilities than on the street.  These facilities did not seem capable of maintaining a clean structured living environment for these men.   Unfortunately my husband’s career as a law enforcement officer had led him inside at least 2 of these facilities and that is what he had seen.  This was not pure speculation.  But honestly, even if those facilities had been stellar, the bottom line was that Dillon needed to move away from his hometown.  There were too many relationships and triggers here.  If he stayed here he would most likely die.


It took some time for me to convince my husband why I felt this was the place for Dillon.  The screaming arguments in our house over Dillon had been a daily occurrence for years.  Once Dillon’s father was on board then it was time to convince Dillon.  This took a little while.  The first time Jared spoke to him, Dillon hung up on him.  Jared told me to walk away and continue to answer Dillon’s questions, show him the website etc. and he would most likely come around.  Jared also emphasized it had to be Dillon’s choice. Eventually, Dillon agreed to go to the Recovery Ranch.  I knew at that point that sobriety was probably not Dillon’s motivation.  He had made some very bad choices and they were catching up with him.  I ran with it… I booked the plane tickets.  Dillon became a resident of the Recovery Ranch on May 29, 2016.


At times Dillon has struggled with being so far away from home and living in a sober structured environment.  It definitely has not been easy for him. It’s not supposed to be…

At times I wondered if the light bulb was ever truly going to come on and make Dillon believe that Sobriety=Life.  Finally, I believe it was around the end of February Dillon told us that he had truly committed to graduation. He has also committed to complete the Wooden Graduate program and to stay at the Recovery Ranch for transition in order to give back to others.

Each time we talk to Dillon we are truly amazed at how far he has come.  I really believe the Recovery Ranch saved Dillon’s life.  He is learning to become a contributing member of society. He is no longer an irresponsible selfish child.  He is becoming the person we always knew he could be.

I know this testimonial is probably too long however, I also need to say:  without “Hope” it’s virtually impossible to have “Faith.”


HOPE; is an optimistic attitude of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances in one's life or the world at large. As a verb, its definitions include: "expect with confidence" and "to cherish a desire with anticipation." Among its opposites are dejection, hopelessness and despair.

FAITH; is trusting in something you cannot explicitly prove. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

The Recovery Ranch is restoring Hope and Faith…

Thank You Gentlemen

God Be With You All!

Julia and Brent Stoelting

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